So, I know it is absolutely normal for us mommas (and dads) to feel frustrated at times during our journey through parenthood. I have read numerous articles, blogs, etc. on how you pretty much aren't normal if you don't have those days, right? And, trust me, boy do I have those days. Averi is now a little over two years old but I have never ever referred to this stage as the "terrible twos," like I have heard so many people (parents and not) call it.. I prefer to call it the "trying twos." I do have days where my sweet daughter tests my patience non-stop, but she is never "terrible," only "trying". We as moms need to step away for a moment, take a deep breathe and remember our little ones are growing, exploring and LEARNING to communicate in this great big world. I remind myself that she is two years old, and while tantrums, coloring on the furniture and making a mess are totally things that ALL two years olds do-- It is my job as her mother to teach her that she can in fact communicate without throwing a tantrum, or that coloring on paper versus on the couch leaves her with something she can be proud of. It is my job to teach her that making a mess is A-Okay, as long as we take some time to clean up afterwards. We need to remember that these little humans struggle too, as they piece together how life works. Lately, when I find myself getting frustrated over situations like those mentioned above, or similar situations, I think to myself, "This may not be ideal, but what a blessing that God has trusted me with this precious child.. To love unconditionally and to teach the ways of life to." Don't get me wrong, I have my days where I have to take a walk solo or soak in the tub to keep from pulling my hair out, as I am sure we all do. But ultimately, isn't it such an incredible thing? The gift of parenthood. The fact that the Big Man upstairs has trusted us to care for and raise another human being? I think it is pretty incredible. I look at my daughter, and am amazed at the person she has become in only two short years. She is a sponge for knowledge and has a heart of gold. I have heard people say that at two years old, children begin to get manipulative and that you need a stern approach in disciplining them (mind you, a lot of the people I hear this come from or the articles I read are from people who have no children of their own--go figure!). That may work for some of you, but not for me. I don't necessarily think that children become manipulative, I believe that at this age they are becoming more independent and are exerting their independence in the only way they know how! Again, it is our job as mom & dad to teach them more effective ways of being independent. And yes, I believe you can start at two years old. :-) I may be all over the place with this post, but I felt compelled to blog about the challenges we face as parents during these trying twos, and how my outlook may differ from others. I am by no means a perfect mom, but I am a perfect mom for Averi, and that is all that matters to me. Love your babies and cherish your time with them--tantrums and no tantrums-- you won't ever get today back and lord knows they don't get younger!
Lots of love,